They met on a blind date and dated for nearly two years before they decided to tie the knot. They were a little cautious since it wasn’t the first marriage for either of them. He was fifty-eight and she was forty-one. He has a Boston Blackie pencil thin mustache, a full head of hair, and grown children and grands. My sister, Lori, became an instant grandmother–a role she relishes–the day she married Walter. I was proud to be her matron of honor.
I knew the attraction was serious when my sister came to visit to celebrate my birthday and couldn’t go a whole weekend without talking to Walter on the phone. Not just talking, but almost teenage cooing–like one truly smitten–arguing about who was going to hang up first. My brother-in-law of twenty-eight years was a terrific addition to the family.
While Lori gained children and grandchildren through marriage, Walter became a dog person. Lori had a Rottweiler, Sam, and a Great Pyrenees, Harry, when they married. Since Walter was retired he became their companion while Lori was at work and they became his four-legged buddies. Through the years Sam and Harry were followed by a Weimaraner, Jackson; a Jack Russell Terrier, Bailey; another Rottweiler, Edison; and his most recent companions, a Rottweiler named Koda and spoiled little French bulldog named Winston. Walter seemed to enjoy them as much as his wife did.
Walter was a bleed-scarlet-and-gray-Ohio-State fan, not because he was an alum, but because he lived much of his life within thirty minutes of the OSU stadium. It made him too nervous to watch the games live so Lori recorded them for him to watch once he knew the outcome. The one exception was when he attended the National Championship game.
Walter was an avid golfer. He shared many hours on the links with my husband and some brothers-in-law. He reached his bucket list goal of playing golf in all fifty states and played internationally in Canada with my brother-in-law, Jim O’Malley, who could never beat him.
His drink of choice when we first met him was Black Velvet and coke, but then he became a Bud Light drinker which he added a pinch of salt to. He remained loyal to them despite the kafuffle over the spokesperson and razzing by the other in-laws.
He love The Tribe- the Cleveland Indians, but did not like the political correctness motivated name change to the Guardians. On one of our couples trips, we met them in St. Louis for a Cardinals Indians baseball game. On that trip we convinced the very claustrophobic Walter to go up to the top of The Arch. The worst part wasn’t being in the small enclosed space at the top of the slightly swaying structure. It was the ride up in tiny pods where you all touched knees as it creaked and jerked to the top and then you had to get back in them to go down. He wasn’t ready to brave the caves in Chattanooga on a later trip.
Walter was from a family larger than ours. He was number twelve of thirteen children. We had to make a trip for a funeral to Canada years ago when you could cross the border with a birth certificate instead of requiring a passport. Walter’s birth certificate still showed a first name of ‘Boy’. He was allowed to enter Canada at Buffalo, NY. But he worried all weekend that U.S. Border agents might not let a man over the age of sixty back into the U.S. under the moniker ‘Boy’. But they did. Lori made arrangements for a corrected birth certificate and a passport soon after that.

The most important trait Walter had was that he loved my sister and she loved him. All you have to do is look at the picture of them together and see their feelings radiate off the photograph.
Walter had a stroke in March and worked hard in Rehab with one goal in mind–to come home. When he finally got there after ten weeks in therapy, he made it clear he didn’t want anything more to do with medical interventions. No matter what. I know that was hard for Lori, the compassionate nurse, to agree to, but that is what love means. He had no fear. He knew where he would spend eternity. When the Lord wrapped Walter in divine peace to spirit him to the place of no pain, she was at his side in their home holding his hand.
Thanks for being part of our lives, Walter. We love and miss you!









