DULL WOMEN

I created the little picture years ago during my cross stitch period. Truth be told, probably when I was crafting instead of doing the much dreaded housework. I am fortunate to have married a man who wants to have his “stuff” left alone. He is delighted when I leave all his projects spread across the dining room table or books stacked in multiple places in the living room. Since I also have several “projects in progress” areas, I totally understand the feeling.

My mother was a cleaning fiend–both personally and directing her minions (i.e. children). She not only dusted, vacuumed, mopped and de-cluttered. She washed walls and repainted even with an inexplicable frequency. I did not get any of those genes. My husband is truly thankful for that. So am I because it is easy for me to ignore it all. I have so many other things I’d rather do. Writing. Spinning. Weaving. Building model railroad buildings. Lunching with friends.

I clean the bathrooms and kitchen regularly. After all, we’re not animals. However, the pull-out-all-the-stops cleaning is only done when we are having company. Then, my sweet husband helps with the dreaded chores. I think this behavior is a holdover from before I retired. I barely had time to do the essential cleaning each weekend and have overnight visitors for Alabama football games which forced the deeper cleaning.

This spring when we were having dinner guests and later in the month overnight company, I realized I’d ignored things a little too long. There was such a lot to be done to be ready for visitors. My husband thought I should just point to the little plaque above and let it go. That was a bridge too far even for me—the woman who never met a dust bunny she didn’t like. So we de-cluttered–that always takes the longest–then we dusted, vacuumed, mopped, made beds, fixed meals, and welcomed our guests with everything done in the nick of time.

After our little spate of visitors left, it took almost a day to put our “Projects in Progress” (i.e. clutter) back in its normal places. My husband pronounced we were done “until next year.”

I stitched the little plaque to assuage any guilt feelings on my part about not being my mother’s level of housekeeper, not to disparage any of my sweet friends and relatives who some how manage to keep everything clean all the time. I can truthfully say, no one has ever accused me of being dull–at least not based on my house being immaculate! Hope you have the time to keep house the way you want it and live with those whose standards match your own. Enjoy!

It’s All In How You Look At It

I really detest having household chores to do. Over the years I have developed the ability to ignore dust until right before we’re expecting company. I used to think this dislike was because I had to cram all my chores into the two days a week that I wasn’t working at the office. Now that I’m working only at home, I like them even less because I have so many other ways that I want to spend my time. Luckily, my husband doesn’t want to have anyone constantly disrupting his day to clean around him – a match made in heaven!

There are two or three chores you simply can’t ignore. Jim would say the first is taking out the garbage. Amazing how much garbage two people can make. The dishwasher lessens the burden of kitchen clean up. I love to cook, but not the cleanup.

My least favorite chore is laundry. It seems like you just get it done and there is something in the baskets again ! My sweet husband has started waiting to put his clothes in the laundry on laundry day so I can have this nanosecond of pleasure in seeing all empty baskets.

His sweet actions made me stop to think that I am looking at this all wrong. Baskets full of clothes to wash means we have plenty to wear and I only have to take them to the washer and dryer, not down to the stream to pound on rocks.

The garbage means we have plenty to eat. And even the dust means we have places and furniture for the dust to collect on.

Beginning today, they aren’t chores any more. They are simply every day blessings of my life….but I hope Jim still lets me enjoy a moment of empty basket bliss from time to time!